Failures can change the way you look at life and how you see yourself.
Ayaw mo na mag try ulit kasi natatakot ka na baka mag-fail ka na naman. Nawalan ka na ng pag asa na maabot ‘yung mga pangarap mo. You feel deep shame and you see yourself as a “failure.”
Pero, paano nga ba makakabangon after experiencing multiple defeats in life?
In her article 8 Things To Remember When You Fail (So You Can Bounce Back Better Than Before), Amy Morin – psychotherapist and author of the bestselling book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, said that “the key to recovering from failure is changing the way you think. When you think about failure differently, you’ll be able to turn your biggest setbacks into your best comebacks.”
So, here are 3 points para magkapagsimula ka ulit mula sa pagkabigo:
1. Don’t reject how you feel
According to Henrik Edberg of Positivity Blog, failure will hurt you and it’s okay. Kailangan tanggapin mo na nagkamali ka at nabigo, instead of running away from it. The more you reject how you feel, the more na lalala ‘yung sakit na nararamdaman mo in the long run.
2. Get back up and remember that you are not a failure
Amy Morin said that failure is a growth opportunity in her article, The 5 Ways Resilient People Get Over Failure. And that you learn from each mistake and takeaway all the lessons, skills, and knowledge that you gained. Hindi ibig sabihin na kapag nabigo ka ngayon, katapusan na ng lahat. Look at it as a chance to start afresh.
3. Look ahead and build right relationships
Starting afresh means not looking back from past failures and mistakes. Karl Smith from LinkedIn suggests to stop worrying about the past because you can’t do anything about it. Ang puwede mong gawin ay baunin lahat ng mga natutunan mo sa mga nangyari and then apply it in the future.
It is also important to get guidance or support in areas of your life. Build relationships with people who will encourage you and will be there with you no matter what.
The Bible tells us in Isaiah 43:18-19, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it! I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Today is a new beginning to pursue your goals and dreams in life!