Isn’t love the best feeling in the world?
‘Yung feeling na hindi maalis sa isip mo ‘yung special someone mo at lagi kang nag-i-imagine what could happen to both of you in the future.
Tapos, gusto mo siya laging makita. And kapag nandiyan na siya, hindi mo maintindihan pero ang lakas ng tibok ng puso mo. Love gives you that fluttering feeling in your belly.
Ang sarap magmahal at mahalin, ‘di ba?
But then, why does the kilig feeling only last for a short period? Or worse, imbis na mag-grow kayo together, the relationship becomes toxic and unhealthy.
It all has to do with the activity happening in your brain.
As explained in an article by Athena Staik, Ph.D. titled The Neuroscience of Romanticized Love – Part 1: Emotion Taboos and posted by PsychCentral , kapag in love ka, high levels of dopamine are released in your brain.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter responsible for activating the receptors in the brain’s reward pathway that stimulate pleasure. In high levels, similar ito sa feeling na high kapag nag-take ng cocaine or alcohol. That’s why this feel-good neurotransmitter is related with addictive behavior.
“Attraction is much like an addiction to another human being. The same brain regions light up when we become addicted to material goods as when we become emotionally dependent on our partners,” according to Katherine Wu in her article Love, Actually: The science behind lust, attraction, and companionship published by Harvard University.
This where the danger lies – when you romanticize love or become addicted to the idea of love rather than the person.
So, how will you know kung nasa ganitong level ka na? Well, kapag nagiging emotionally dependent and consistently obsessive ka na sa partner mo.
This happens when you feel like the only person that can complete and save you from your flaws and shortcomings is your special someone. Feeling mo kulang ka kung wala siya. You find your sense of purpose in him/her.
Kung baga siya ang source of love mo. Hindi mo napapansin na mas concerned ka sa kung ano makukuha mo sa kanya instead of what you can give.
And ang result?
Jealousy, adultery, substance use, and so on.
But healthy love and romance is entirely different.
“Authentic intimacy and healthy relationships invite us to face our fears and old wounds, as opportunities to awaken the qualities essential to living healthy and happy lives: integrity, balance, empathy, compassion and unconditional acceptance of self and other,” says Staik.
Love is not a feeling but a commitment to nourish, strengthen, and protect each other kahit anong mangyari. ‘Yun ang totoong pagmamahal.
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