Aminin mo man o hindi, until now you may be suffering from the consequences the past brought you kasi puwedeng naapektuhan na ‘yung kilos, pananalita, at pananaw mo sa buhay.
Pero bakit kahit nasasaktan ka na, you’re still not letting go of the past?
According to Learning Mind, in their article titled 5 Reasons Why Letting Go of the Past is Crucial for Your Happiness and Mental Health, ang pagkapit sa nakaraan will only lead to poor mental and emotional health. Possible din na masira nito ang future relationships mo at malimitahan ka in developing new ways para ma-overcome ‘yung current challenges na hinaharap mo ngayon.
But then, you can finally brave the new beginnings as you let go of your hurts through these 3 ways.
- Stop being so hard on yourself. It’s okay to not to be okay.
It’s so easy to blame yourself kapag nasasaktan ka. Akala mo ikaw lang ang may kasalanan kung bakit things did not go well. But in an article titled How to Let Go of Things from the Past, licensed marriage and family therapist Lisa Olivera advised to start offering yourself some kindness and compassion and huwag mo i-compare ‘yung journey mo sa iba.
Also, part of self-love is allowing your negative emotions to flow. According to Ramani Durvasula, PhD, a clinical psychologist, huwag ka matakot if you feel angry or sad. Huwag mong labanan ‘yung nararamdaman mo because it will only interrupt you from going through the process of letting go.
- Hindi ka nag-iisa. Open up to someone.
“Allowing ourselves to lean on loved ones and their support is such a wonderful way of not only limiting isolation but of reminding us of the good that is in our lives,” says clinical psychologist Carla Manly, PhD, in an article titled How to Let Go of Things from the Past by Healthline. You cannot fight your battles alone! Find a friend or a loved one na hindi magsasawang makinig sa’yo at hindi ka huhusgahan.
And remember na nandiyan si God para sayo. Pour your heart out to Him. He hears your every cry and is not blind to your tears.
- Most importantly, extend forgiveness.
You cannot move forward, unless you let go of bitterness and unforgiveness in your heart.
Sa totoo lang, forgiveness is not for the person who wronged you. It’s for you. It’s for your own freedom and peace. But then, it is not a one-time decision.
Embrace the process. According to Ps. Scott Savage in an article titled 9 Big Myths about Forgiveness from Relevant Magazine, “It is in the processing of letting go again and again that we experience the full magnitude of forgiveness.”
Kung sa tingin mo wala nang hope for you to move forward in life because of your past, you can make this your prayer and declaration: God will restore those lost years (Joel 2:25) and He will work all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Mahal ka Niya and He wants you to live life in its fullness until you overflow! (John 10:10, TPT)
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