Hindi ka na makatiis sa bahay ‘no?
Let’s be real.
Hindi naman kasi lahat are having a great time with their families this quarantine. For some, naging open door ito to bond more with loved ones and make up for the lost times.
While for others?
It’s not easy to be stuck sa bahay na laging nagsisigawan, nagbabangayan, at galit-galit.
Isa ka ba sa mga nakaka-experience nito?
Habang pa-extend nang pa-extend ang quarantine, lalong nagiging mahirap and sadly, not a lot of people talk about this not-so-fun side.
But today, may karamay ka.
Check out these tips that will help you on how to handle family conflict during quarantine at kahit matapos pa ito.
1. Tignan ang sarili.
Change your perspective and start ka muna within.
Baka sabihin mo, “Eh sila nga may kasalanan eh!”
Read this article, 7 Ways To Deal With Toxic Family Members During Self-Quarantine by Hotel California By The Sea, sabi nila, “You’ve got to look at your unhealthy traits before searching for anyone else’s to get the most unobstructed view on your family members’ toxic habits.”
To help you how to look within, these are some questions that you can ponder on.
Bitter ka ba sa kanila because of their past actions toward you?
Nag-open up ka na ba about what you feel kapag nagbabangayan sila?
At some point, hawa-hawa na ba kayo ng ugali na laging galit at pasigaw kung magsalita?
Have you clearly communicated your boundaries to them sa bahay? Like respecting your time kapag nagwo-work ka if work-from-home ka.
Beneficial ang pag self-reflect because mas mage-gets mo why you’re feeling that way and come up with solutions how to ease your frustrations.
2. Matutong mag-pause when triggered.
It’s easy to strike ‘yung mga linyahang pang-best actor na makakapagpaiyak sa kapatid mo because you’re emotional.
But when this happens, huminga nang malalim at ikalma ang sarili.
Compose yourself and ask, “Am I truly upset because of something that’s happening at home, or am I actually just freaked out about the things I can’t control outside of this space?,” sabi ni Lindsay Kramer, marriage and family therapist in an article 6 tips for solving conflict in quarantine by Sharp.
If what you feel is the latter, kesa ma-stress, ibuhos na lang ang self sa ibang activities like workout, reading, or process your feelings through writing, she added.
Please take care of yourself. Set a time para sa sarili mo to recover and refresh. Have some alone time. Do what you love. Magpalakas.
3. I-share mo ‘yan.
‘Wag mo sarilinin ang problema, baka sumabog ka niyan. Unload the frustrations that you feel to someone you trust.
“Even if you’re stuck in a toxic family environment for the time being, you can prioritize your own mental and emotional health by venting your frustrations or asking for help from healthy people in your life,” says Hotel California By The Sea.
Bukod sa nakakagaan ng feeling ang mag-unload, you need a fresh pair of eyes to gain understanding in your situation dahil kapag inis ka hindi ka naman nakakapag-isip nang tama, ‘di ba?
Tulad nga nang sinabi namin kanina, may karamay ka. You can reach out to us if you’re looking for a friend to open up to.
Just text 0999-227-1927 or call 8-737-0-777.
Pahabol hugot bago ka umalis.
Iba ‘yung sakit ‘no?
Masakit because ‘yung akala mong mga tao who would love, care, and support you the most will only cause you suffering that seems more than you could bear.
Pero kahit gaano man kalalim ang sugat na tinamo mo because of your family, may Someone who wants to heal you from your pain.