Uy! May napupusuan siya ngayon kaya cinlick ‘tong article.
Sino ‘yan, ah? Sure ka bang hindi ka niyan igho-ghost?
Wala namang masama na makipag-chat kay crush (naks), dapat lang you know how to kilig RESPONSIBLY because…
Sabi nga sa Proverbs 4:23 NIV, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
So, how will you guard you heart kung lagi siyang nagre-react sa posts mo? (ehem)
At, pinag-download ka pa ng Rave para daw sabay kayo manood ng Netflix? (ehem ulit)
Eto na nga…
1. Mag-set ng boundaries.
Yes, we know, ilang beses mo na ‘tong narinig pero alam mo ba ano ‘ng gagawin?
Setting boundaries means setting limitations.
“Protect yourself by guarding your heart, your mind, your time, and your conversation. Take control of your relationship; otherwise, it will take control of you,” sabi ni Debra K. Fileta in her article Emotional Dos and Don’ts in Dating by FaithGateway.
Kaya ka nasasaktan pagdating sa dulo kasi binibigay mo agad lahat, eh.
And, by “lahat” we mean sa kanya na umiikot ang buong time mo na nakakalimutan mo na to set aside for yourself, family, friends, or activities you enjoy.
“You were never meant to lose yourself within a dating relationship; rather you were meant to enhance yourself,” she said.
Tapos, chinika mo na rin ang deep secrets, fears, wounds, struggles, insecurities mo and even your greatest ambitions and dreams.
Sabi nga ni Debra, “commit to the moment, allowing your relationship to mature before permitting your conversation to jump ahead, because wherever your conversation goes, your heart will always follow.”
Take it sloooow and steady, Breaker.
‘Wag. Mong. Madaliin.
Oh! Baka sabihin mo, “Grabe naman. Hindi naman kami ganyan.”
Kaya nga sinasabi na sa ‘yo in advance kasi malaki ang chance na mangyari ‘yan IF you will not set boundaries, okay?
Labyu. Tip #2 na.
2. Mag-ingat sa red flags.
Hindi naman sa nang ja-judge ka pero kasama ‘to sa guarding your heart. You don’t want to invest in a person na scammer, half-hearted, or ite-take advantage ka lang.
You’re too precious for that.
Isa sa mga red flags to watch out for is nag-chat na ng “I love you” sa ‘yo within days.
“If someone expresses their love for you and seems to focus on feelings and not getting to know you, this is a red flag,” sabi ng Intrepid Mental Wellness, PLLC on their article Dating 101: Spot The Red Flags Online.
Another red flag is when he/she is a “sweet-talker.” The person always attempts to flatter you with words and will make you feel like you are the best person na nakilala niya sa mundo kahit isa or dalawang beses pa lang kayo nag-uusap.
Warning ng Intrepid Mental Wellness, PLLC, “you might enjoy hearing these things, but you have to remember that this person doesn’t know you. A sweet-talker will not let up on their compliments, which may be an attempt to lure you into an unhealthy relationship.”
Boom! Basahin mo ulit baka ma-miss mo.
At kung napapansin mo na parang obsessed pa siya sa ex niya, red flag din ‘yan.
Kumanta ka na ng “Malaya ka na…” by Moira Dela Torre.
Chour! But seriously, if the person is either repeatedly telling you how much they still like their ex or they bad-mouth their ex, obvious na hindi pa siya nakaka-move on.
“If your actions are compared to those of their ex, this is probably not something you want to deal with. You will end up feeling like you have to live up to them or treat the person you’re interested in better than their ex did,” they said.
Again, you are too precious for that.
Those are just some of the red flags you need to be careful to observe.
Most importantly, tip #3.
3. You are valuable with or without the person. PERIOD.
Sakit ‘to ng mga nai-in love, eh.
Ngayon pa lang sinasabi na namin to not attach your worth to the person. May nabasa pa kaming article Guard Your Heart Dating Relationships from Dawson McAllister of TheHopeLine, “If you live for someone’s praise, you die by their rejection.”
Ouch! Pero true, ‘di ba?
Breaker, the only one who can give meaning to your life is your Creator and makakasigurado ka that He calls you important, treasured, chosen, and special.
Ganon ka na lang kahalaga that He gave His only Son to demonstrate His love for you!
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