Break up advice #1: Iwasan muna makinig ng mga kanta ni Moira Dela Torre lalo na ang Paubaya.
Chour!
Masaquette, bes! Napakinggan mo na ba ‘yun, Breaker?
Grabe ‘no? ‘Yung feeling na kahit hindi ka heartbroken, maha-heartbroken ka. No wonder she is the Queen of Hugot Songs.
Pero para sa mga legit na nakipag-break sa kanilang “Mahiwaga” during this pandemic season, sending virtual hugs to you.
Andito kami to help you.
Pasok sa banga ‘tong sinabi ni psychotherapist Matt Lundquist in an article How to Handle a Breakup During the Coronavirus Quarantine, According to Relationship Pros by Nikhita Mahtani of Shape, “It’s absolutely so much harder to go through a breakup right now.”
“There are a lot of uncomfortable feelings being brought to the surface as a result of the pandemic, and if you add those emotions to those of a breakup, as well as not having your regular coping mechanisms to turn to, it can lead to a really tough time for most people,” he explained.
Before kapag heartbroken ka, puwede kang lumabas any time to cope. But now, even though you are in a much more relaxed quarantine rules, hindi ka pa rin naman puwede lumabas bigla to go out with your friends or date yourself.
Mas madaling i-isolate ang sarili and sulk in self-pity and shame. Pero today, okay lang bang samahan ka namin?
Let us walk you through these 3 advices on how to deal with breakup during this pandemic season.
Break up advice #1: Ito na talaga ‘yung totoong advice – allow yourself to hurt.
Yup, tama ‘yang nabasa mo.
Baka nakaka-feel ka ng guilt ngayon because you think that what you are experiencing right now is nothing compared to what the world is dealing with.
Breaker, your pain matters.
“It’s important to recognize that although not all pain is equal in measure, yours is still true, valid, and incredibly real,” sabi ng Relevant in their article A Guide to Breaking Up During a Global Pandemic.
Remember that.
Or maybe, isa ka ngayon sa mga gustong makatakas from the pain by suppressing or numbing it.
Pero, alam mo Breaker, “it seems counterintuitive to embrace pain in order to stop hurting, but healing requires walking through the hurt and heartache – and allowing ourselves to grieve is an essential part of the process,” shinare nila.
Masakit pero kailangan mong maramdaman.
May full article kami about grief or pagluluksa. It will be super helpful for you to read it after this para mas maintindihan mo the importance of grieving well for your loss.
Break up advice #2: Rebuild your routine.
Isa ‘to sa pinaka-mahirap gawin kasi nasanay ka na palagi kayong 2, eh.
Sige, Breaker, pause muna and hinga nang malalim.
Then, kapag ready ka na, scroll down.
Aminin mo man or hindi, kay ex na umikot ang mundo mo kaya kasabay ng pagkawala niya ay ang pagkawala ng totoong ikaw.
Naku, Breaker! I-take note mo ‘yan sa next relationship mo, ah. (Ayan ay kung ready ka na, okay?)
Sabi nga ni relationship expert Monica Parikh from the Shape article, “that’s unhealthy, and just leads to codependency. Instead, your life should be filled with so many other things—like friends, hobbies, spirituality, exercise—that the relationship is simply the cherry on top, as opposed to the whole sundae.”
Nabasa mo ‘yun?
There is more to life than a jowa.
So, now na mas marami ka na ngayong time, set up activities in your schedule.
Perhaps, you can start working out daily, ipagluto ang family every weekend, buy a house plant para may inaalagaan ka (hindi nga lang tao pero puwede na), join an online community that meets virtually, or video call your close friends tuwing Friday. Mga ganern.
“This will help you establish your identity separate from your relationship and give you something to look forward to every single day,” they said.
Break up advice #3: Reflect on what you have learned.
Better if isusulat mo, Breaker.
Kailangan mo mag-allot ng time not just to process the breakup but to look within, your ex, and your relationship as a whole and see what areas you need to improve.
If not, sabi ni Matt, you’re just going to repeat the same old pattern and carry it to the next relationship na ayaw naman natin mangyari, right?
Pero. Pero. Pero.
Hindi rin natin isinasantabi ang fact na this is hard to do! Yes, it’s hard especially if fresh pa ‘yung pain.
We hear you. ‘Wag ka mag-alala.
Ang solusyon?
Connect with an expert or a trusted friend who will “objectively look at your patterns and lovingly point out where you need to change your thinking and behavior is priceless, because most of the time, we don’t even know how we’re feeling unless someone asks us those hard questions,” sabi ni Monica.
Madami na ngayong online therapy that you can check out, Breaker.
Sa ‘min din, puwede ka mag-reach out. Text mo lang kami sa 0999-227-1927 or call 8-737-0-777. Sabi sa ‘yo eh, we will help you walk through this.
You are not alone.
Actually, bago mo i-close ‘tong article, we want to introduce you to Someone who has been with you through every pain and tear you’ve shed.
He knows and He is closer than you think.
Curious ka ‘no?
Message us now iCanBreakThrough Facebook page or Instagram account or you can email us. We will tell you more about Him.
Ang hirap ng sitwasyon ng ganito ang nararamdmn pkrmdm ko sobra kulang ako parang di ako magising sa katotohanan. Pra wala ako buhay. Minsan malaks ang loob pero pg dumating un mga bagay n naiisip ko pinanghihinaan ako ng loob lalo na nwala un tao mlki bhgi ng buhay ko. Ngwa ko saktan ang sarili ko dhl di ko na alam nrrmdmn ko. Ang hirap ng parang wala silbi dati im ok pa. nawalan ng work. Ndi alam mtutupad ko pangarap ko tas naiwan ako ngmmhl samantalang sampal pra skn my iba n kgd tao mahal ko na umaasa ako un pla pinaasa lng ako and recently health ko nmn my sakit ako di ko inaasahan. Un tao gusto ko makapitan wala iniwan ako wala ng pakialam skn kya ms lalo ko nhhrpn lalo n sa panahon ngaun ngsabay2 lht.
Hi Emely, salamat sa pag-share mo sa amin nito and we understand na napaka-painful ng pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. But we want to encourage you na people are not perfect and we cannot rely on them all the time, kaya minsan ina-allow ni God na mangyari ito para ma-realize natin na tanging Siya lamang ang nagmamahal sa atin ng buong-buo. Hindi Siya nagbabago at nang-iiwan even in the worst situation ng buhay natin. Alam mo sabi nga ni God sa bible, He is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Kaya, lapit ka lang kay God at isumbong mo sa Kanya ang lahat ng bigat sa puso mo and He will surely comfort you with His loving presence. Message mo lang kami sa 0999-227-1927 or call 8-737-0-777, we are here for you.
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Thank you can I share this with our high school students?
Hi Daisy! Of course, feel fee to share this to your students and we pray that our post will minister to them. Also, you can check out our iCanBreakThrough Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/icanbreakthrough, Instagram account http://www.instagram.com/icanbreakthrough, and YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/icanbreakthrough to know more about us. Stay blessed!
Ako gsto KO maaus namin Muli family namin na mabuho pa din kmi Alang Sa anak namin Sana bigyan ako na Isa pag kakataon para mag paramdam na sakanya Yung pag mamahal na hinahanap niya Sa asawa Alam KO Sa huli ang pag Sisi Pero na dito pa din ako para sakanya para mahalin siya ulit pag bigyan LNG niya ako na Isa chance para maaus para alagaan na siya san hnd pa uli ang lhat para maaus Muli pag sasama namin kaya more pray LNG ako Kay god na maaus niya Muli kmi ☺️?????
Hi Michelle! Ipag-pray natin ‘yan kay God dahil sa Kanya laging may chance para magbago at gawin muli ang tama. Do not lose hope, just keep on praying and believe that God can do all things possible. Puwede mo rin kaming tawagan sa 8-737-0-777 or text us at 0999-227-1927.
You can also message us sa iCanBreakThrough Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/icanbreakthrough or Instagram account http://www.instagram.com/icanbreakthrough. Or, you can email us at connect (at) icanbreakthrough.com.
Gusto ko lang po i-share tong experience ko. Ahm nagkaron po ako ng relationship at nagkaron po kami ng anak which is 4 months old pa lang ngayong November. Nung nagbubuntis asawa ko, maayos pa kami. Pero nung nawalan ako ng trabaho at sabi niya sakin siya naman daw gusto magtrabaho kasi daw naburyo siya nung pinagbubuntis niya ang baby namin ngayon. Ngayon, simula nung nagkatrabaho siya naging iritable na siya sakin. Konting kibo ko palagi siyang galit sakin hanggang sa palagi na kami nag-aaway at kahit siya yung mali ay ako pa din tong nag-aayos kasi nga mahal ko siya eh. Lumipas pa ang isang buwan nagsasawa na daw siya sakin at gusto niya na makipaghiwalay sakin. Ngayon hindi ko matanggap na gusto niya talaga yon at hindi ko naman pinangarap kahit kailan na magkaroon ng broken family. Ang iniisip ng partner ko eh ayos lang sa kanya na maghiwalay kami lara lang daw makawala na siya sa away namin. Ang iniisip ko paano na baby namin? Sa akin kasi naiwan ang baby namin since nawala ako ng trabaho dahil sa pandemic. Siya ang ginagawa niya hindi na siya nauwi sakin kundi sa kanila habang kami ng baby ko naiwan na. Minsan niya na lang kami sa kanila at napansin ko na puro gala na siya kahit may pandemic. Hindi ko alam gagawin ko feeling ko hindi ko makikita siyang magkakaron ng ibang pamilya habang kami ng baby namin naiwan na. Feeling ko kapag nakita ko siyang may kasamang iba eh baka makasakit ako ng tao or worst mapatay ko. Sobrang hirap na hirap na ko. Hindi ko alam paano ako makaka move on. Sana matulungan niyo po ako??
Hi Jan Jasper, salamat sa pag-share mo sa amin nito. We understand na mahirap at painful ang pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. However, we also appreciate you kasi hindi mo pinababayaan ang baby nyo at inaalagaan mo siya. For that, you deserve a tap on your shoulder. Minsan, ina-allow ni God ang mga pangyayari sa buhay mo kasi meron pala Siyang mas magandang plano, kaya kapit ka lang kay Lord, sabi Niya sa Bible, Lumapit kayo sa akin, kayong lahat na nahihirapan at lubhang nabibigatan sa inyong pasanin, at kayo’y bibigyan ko ng kapahingahan. Sabihin mo kay Lord ang lahat ng nararamdaman ng puso mo at handa Siya na pakinggan ka, at bigyan ka ng peace and comfort.
We are also ready to listen, tawag ka sa 8-737-0-777 or message mo lang kami anytime sa 0999-227-1927. Puwede mo rin kaming i-message sa iCanBreakThrough Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/icanbreakthrough or Instagram account http://www.instagram.com/icanbreakthrough. Or, you can email us at connect (at) icanbreakthrough.com.