Don’t worry, Breaker.
Safe ka rito, okay?
Alam namin that deep within, you know that something is not right sa relationship niyo; but for some reason natatakot ka and you don’t know what to do.
Mahal na mahal mo, eh! Okay naman talaga kayo nung una pero hindi na siya tulad nang dati. Hindi na kayo tulad nang dati.
This does not only apply sa mga may jowa, ah. You could be in a toxic relationship with your best friend or your colleague sa work na matagal mo ng ka-close kaya you feel stuck in life and hindi maka-breakthrough.
Sabi ni Dr. Lillian Glass in an article How To Tell If You’re In a Toxic Relationship — And What To Do About It by By Jamie Ducharme of Time, a toxic relationship is “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.”
‘Wag na natin patagalin pa.
Below are 5 signs you should watch out for in a toxic relationship.
Toxic relationship sign #1: Siya lagi ang bida.
Wala ka nang say sa relationship because everything revolves around that person.
“Toxic people have a way of making everything about them and like to be in control of every decision, no matter how small it is,” sabi ng Murdoch University in their article 7 signs of a toxic relationship published in Medical Xpress.
Paano ka magbe-breakthrough?
Ultimo pagkain sa labas or pagpili ng papanooring movie, desisyon niya lagi ang masusunod.
Uy! ‘Wag mo ‘tong balewalain, Breaker.
These seems like small stuff pero signs kasi ‘yan nang pagiging manipulative ng isang tao na pati actions or emotions mo apektado.
Basahin mo ‘tong sinabi ng One Love in their article 10 signs of an unhealthy relationship, “You know you’re being manipulated if someone is trying to convince you to do things you don’t feel comfortable doing, ignores you until they get their way, or tries to influence your feelings.”
Kunwaring nagce-care sa nararamdaman mo or opinion mo pero izza prank! Sarili pa rin niya ang uunahin niya.
Toxic relationship sign #2: Pagod na pagod ka na.
Normal lang na makaramdam ng pagod sa isang relationship tapos you both will work it out para sa growth ng isat-isa.
Pero kapag toxic na, kakaiba ‘yung pagod, eh.
“If a relationship stops bringing joy, and instead consistently makes you feel sad, angry, anxious or “resigned, like you’ve sold out,” it may be toxic,” sabi ni Dr. Lillian.
Naka-bold ‘yung stops and consistently kasi ayun talaga ‘yung keywords.
He or she just sucks the life out of you. You feel stuck. You can’t breakthrough. Your relationship already negatively influences your mental health, personality, or self-esteem.
Toxic relationship sign #3: Possessive siya.
Normal lang naman magselos at maging protective, but “when someone is jealous to a point where they try to control who you spend time with and what you do,” sabi ng One Love.
Aba, teka lang.
Possessive na ‘yan eh when they try to control you or yell at you or hit you.
‘Yung tipong sasabog na siya agad kapag gagala ka or makikipag-text sa mga taong kinai-insecure-an niya.
O ‘di kaya, kung usapang mag-jowa, sasabihan kang nakikipag-flirt sa iba or nagchi-cheat kahit hindi naman talaga. Or even go as far as stalking you, sabi ng One Love.
You feel like you’re in chains and you can’t breakthrough.
Toxic relationship sign #4: Gusto niya siya lang ang kasama mo.
Nako! Alam na namin iniisip mo.
“Sweet kaya ‘yun. Ako lagi gusto niyang kasama.”
Kapag clingy sweet agad?
Pag-isipan mong mabuti, friend, kaya ka nafi-feeling stuck eh.
Shinare ng Murdoch University, “this can quickly escalate to possessiveness, causing you to spend less time with friends and family, and eventually feel isolated and lonely.”
Meron pa ‘yan magtatanong, “Ako o siya?”
Awit! Pinapapili ka pa kung siya o ang pamilya mo.
“If you are experiencing isolation, you may end up feeling like you’re dependent on your partner for love, money or acceptance,” One Love said.
Toxic relationship sign #5: Kapag may iba ng nakakapansin na toxic siya for you.
You want to know why?
Because 1st, kapag in love ka kasi lahat hahamakin mo mapasaya lang ‘yung tao kahit na ubos na ubos ka na. Napapansin kasi ‘yun ng mga tao around you when you have changed for the worse instead of for the better.
2nd, they care for you because they love you. They love you enough na ayaw nilang makita na you’re throwing away your life to someone who does not value your worth as a person.
Kasama na kami doon, Breaker.
We want you to breakthrough feeling stuck in life, pero ang tanong is willing ka ba?
If you’re saying na it’s more complicated than we think kaya hindi ka basta-basta maka-alis sa relationship na ‘to, try us.
Text mo kami sa 0999-227-1927 or call 8-737-0-777.
We want to know your story and help you breakthrough in life.
Kasama mo kami, Breaker.
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