May special dinner kayo ng family mo over the weekend pero bigla kang inaya mag-netflix party ng crush mo.
Ano ‘ng gagawin mo? Do you say ‘yes’ and not attend the family dinner?
Dalawang company ang nag offer sa ‘yo ng trabaho at the same time. ‘Yung isa offers a fast-paced environment with lots of learning opportunities, habang ‘yung isa naman offers flexible working hours.
Ano ‘ng pipiliin mo?
Marami kang deliverables na kailangan tapusin today sa work pero umiiyak ‘yung kapatid mo.
Ano ‘ng uunahin mo?
Nakakalurkei na ba?
Breaker, palaging may mga pagpipilian sa buhay. Kailangan magdesisyon araw-araw.
Many things come into play in decision-making, at isa sa mga nag ga-guide ng ‘yong choice of actions are your personal core values. Aware ka man sa mga ‘to o hindi.
“Values are the individual beliefs that people hold and the things that people deeply feel are important in their lives. These beliefs are the underlying motivations for how people act and behave. We can also define values as the preferences in your life.” Sabi yan ni Michelle Nelson in her article, What Are Your Personal Core Values? by Medium.
Halimbawa, kung isa sa core values mo ay family time, maaaring mas piliin mo ang dinner mo with your family kesa sa netflix party mo with your crush.
O kaya naman, if you value work-life balance, you may decide to turn down a job offer that involves a lot of late meetings. Pero, if achievements naman are important to you, you may have to choose the company that offers more opportunities for career growth as opposed to the company that offers a more flexible working hour.
“Everyone has values, some people are just more aware of what their values are than others. Being aware of what your most important values are — your core values — provides a valuable guide for living a life that feels meaningful and can greatly help with decision making.” Sabi pa rin yan Michelle Nelson.
At ika nga Roy E. Disney, “when your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.”
Kasi kung hindi malinaw sa ‘yo ang values mo, you might end up making a decision that go against what you value pala in life. When that happens, hindi maiiwasan na you would feel confused and frustrated in life.
This is also the reason why some people fail to achieve the goals they set for themselves. Kasi minsan, ‘yung goals na sine-set nila ay hindi pala aligned sa values nila. Ang ending? They procrastinate and they are unmotivated sa pag follow through with these goals.
Pero. Pero. Pero.
When the decisions you make naman or the goals you set are aligned with your values, that’s where you tend to feel positive, energetic, and satisfied. That’s also where you feel like you’re on the right path or are in the right place, at the right time. Motivations come naturally to you. Hindi mo kailangan pilitin. Tulad ng pag pilit mo ng sarili mo sa kanya.
Char! Iba pala ‘yun!
So eto na nga, going back.
To get a better understanding of yourself, make better life decisions, and have clarity regarding your future direction, magandang um-effort ka to really clarify your core values, Breaker.
Magbigay ka naman ng time sa sarili mo, ‘wag lang puro sa kanya. Cheret!
Kaya naman, to help your breakthrough in this area, here are 3 Breakthrough tips to help you identify you core values.
BreakThrough Tip #1: Reflect on a time where you feel most happy and fulfilled.
Try to consider a meaningful moment, Breaker. One that really stood out for you.
Ano ‘ng ginagawa mo, o ano ang nangyayari during this time?
May kasama ka ba ‘non? Sinu-sino?
Nasaan ka kaya ‘non?
Ano sa palagay mo ‘yung reason why you were happy and fulfilled at that time?
Write down your observations sa papel o mas better, sa journal mo para meron kang notes na puwedeng balik-balikan.
BreakThrough Tip #2: Reflect on a time where you feel frustrated, unfulfilled, or empty,
Experiencing feelings of frustration or unfulfillment can also be an indicator that you are not living out your values or that your values are being suppressed, Breaker. Puwedeng ng sarili mo, or other external factors.
Again, isipin mo kung ano ‘ng ginagawa mo, o ano ang nangyayari during this time.
It will help if you can also describe the situation or the details of this memory.
Based on the situation, ano sa tingin mo ang naging root cause ng emotion mo?
Don’t rush, Breaker. Magandang mapag-isipan mo ‘to ng mabuti at ma-process.
BreakThrough Tip #3: List down your role models.
Who do you look up to, Breaker? Sino ‘yung mga taong ina-admire mo at bakit?
Ano ‘ng qualities nila ang nagustuhan mo kaya mo sila naging role model?
Mapagmahal ba sila sa pamilya?
Magaling sa trabaho?
Madiskarte sa buhay?
Honest? Loyal? Trustworthy?
Again, take your time, Breaker. Don’t rush. Dahil ang mga taong nagmamadali, madalas nagkakamali.
BreakThrough Tip #4: List down the activities that get you into the ‘flow’.
Ito naman yung mga activities na every time ginagawa mo, hindi mo namamalayan lumilipas na pala yung oras. Yung kahit challenging, nage-enjoy ka kapag ginagawa mo siya and it feels rewarding for you.
Do you get in the flow ba every time you teach others?
How about every time you’re learning something new? Hindi mo ba namamalayang di ka na pala nakapag-lunch kakaaral?
Take note of these moments, Breaker, and write them on your journal. Kasi your reaction to these activities can give you tremendous insights about your values.
BreakThrough Tip #5: Identify your personal core values.
Lastly, Breaker, based on the experiences you listed down, ano sa palagay mo ang dahilan kung bakit sila memorable at importante sa ‘yo? Ano ‘ng values kaya ang umiiral or ang nasu-supress during those times?
Puwede mong gamiting ‘tong list of common personal values to help you define what personal value is at work in you during those experiences.
Pagkatapos, ilista mo ang ‘yong top 5 to 10 values.
By now, Breaker, meron ka nang idea kung anu-anong mga bagay ang mahalaga sa ‘yo. Simula na ‘to ng pag-discover mo sa ‘core values mo.
If you need help to process your thoughts as you reflect on your experiences, ‘wag ka mahihiyang i-text kami sa 0999-227-1927 or tawagan kami sa 8-737-0-777
Gusto ka namin makitang mag-#BreakThrough!