Breaker, may question kami…

Nakakain ka na ba ng manggang hilaw?

Ang asim ‘di ba?

Parang pag-ibig lang ‘yan, eh. Maasim kapag hilaw pa, pero matamis kapag hinog na.

Naks! Gustomoyon?

Alam namin na atat na atat ka na magka-jowa, Breaker, pero ang matamis na pagmamahalan ay hindi minamadali.

Tandaan mo ‘yan.

Magandang opportunity ‘to for you to slow down, reflect, and ask yourself…

“Ready na ba talaga ako to commit sa isang relationship?”

Kasi baka…

BreakThrough Sign #1: Nape-pressure ka lang.

Dahil ba ‘to sa Domino Lovers Challenge sa TikTok or sa K-drama na napanood mo?

Hindi na lang “Oh! Kailan ka magkaka-jowa?” ng tita mo ‘yung pressure, pati na rin online.

Ganito na lang isipin mo, Breaker.

If you give in sa pressure, you may end up settling for less than God’s best.

Okay na lang sa ‘yo to compromise your values, principles, and beliefs.

Pero sino ba ang magsa-suffer?

Hindi naman sila. Ikaw din. Kayong 2 din.

So, bago ka mag-commit, check yourself.

Are you deciding based sa sinasabi ng iba? Or talaga bang, “Handa ka na?”

Next…

BreakThrough Sign #2: Hindi ka pa talaga nakaka-move on kay ex.

Eto, real talk, ah.

Naka-move on ka na ba talaga or naghahanap ka lang ng rebound?

Gusto mo kurot, Breaker?

Chour!

Pero seryoso, bakit ba?

It’s okay na maging honest sa sarili.

Dahil ba miss na miss mo na si ex and you feel lonely?

May better solusyon diyan, Breaker.

“Rather than quickly starting over, it’s important to take the time to heal, recover and redefine yourself now that you are standing alone,” Debra Fileta in her article Signs You Aren’t Ready to Date from RELEVANT.

Paano?

May article kami dedicated for you. Check out this 3 Tips on How to Move On from your Ex.

Let’s stop the cycle of sakitan and wasakan.

Masasaktan ka lang eventually kapag pinilit mong magka-jowa tapos mawawasak siya kasi malalaman niyang rebound siya.

So, sige na basahin mo na ‘yung article then balik ka for…

BreakThrough Sign #3: Akala mo ‘yung magiging jowa mo ang makakapag-complete sa ‘yo.

Sino bang may sabi na ang pagkakaraoon ng jowa ang sukatan nang totoong happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction?

SINO?

Chour!

Well, hindi ka rin namin masisisi kasi ganun na ‘yung mindset na na-create sa ‘yo ng tao, media, and culture.

Pero, the opposite is true.

“There’s got to be an understanding that true security and value must come from within before you will be able to invest fully to another. Relying on another human being to fill those insatiable needs is a recipe for disaster—because no human being has the capacity to offer you what is needed for true value and self-worth,” sabi ni Debra.

In short, hindi mo kakantahan ‘yung future jowa mo ng “Kulang ako kung wala ka…. ‘Di ako mabubuo kung di kita kasama…” ni Erik Santos.

Kulang ka dahil “true security must be rooted from the intimacy of your relationship with God and founded in the value He has placed upon your life,” she added.

Boom!

Nabasa mo ‘yun?

Alamin mo muna kung sino ka ba talaga in God’s eyes.

Assignment mo ‘yan, ah.

Tutulungan ka namin.

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Another is…

BreakThrough Sign #4: Inuunahan mo na naman si God.

“Lord, siya na lang please.”

Ayiieee!

Guilty sa mga ganyang prayer. ‘Wag ka mag-alala, Breaker, samedt.

Ang saya kaya kiligin tapos mag-daydream kasama siya!

Pero alam mo, Breaker…

Isa sa mga sign na ready or matured ka na for a relationship is kapag nag-shift na ang prayer mo from, “Lord, siya na lang please” to “Lord, aaminin ko na gusto ko siyang pakasalan someday pero Ikaw pa rin po ang masunod. Ikaw naman ang Author ng love story ko. Please bring me the one You want me to marry and make it clear to me,” sabi ni Mark Ballenger in his article 5 Signs You Are Ready for a Serious Christian Relationship of Apply God’s Word.

Naks! Matured ‘yan?

I-clear lang namin, Breaker, ah.

Walang masama na mag-pray kay God for specific things pero the more kasi you understand na si God ang may hawak ng pen ng love story mo, hindi mo na aagawin sa Kanya ‘yung pen.

You will let Him write your love story because you know na it’s going to be beautiful and purposeful. Si God ‘yan, eh!

Kaya steady ka lang, Breaker.

Makakanta mo rin ‘yung “At nakita kita sa tagpuan ni Bathala… May kinang sa mata na di maintindihan…” ni Moira Dela Torre.

Kelegs na naman siya, oh!

Last na…

BreakThrough Sign #5: Hindi ka pa healed from your commitment issues.

Sabi nga nila, “Love is a commitment.”

Ang gandang sabihin pero ang tanong, ready ka ba to commit?

Kapag pumasok ka sa isang relationship, hindi lang ‘to basta kilig. Willing ka ba to stand by your partner’s side when the going gets tough?

Kapag hindi niya na-meet ang expectations mo?

Kapag nalaman mo ‘yung truth about his/her not-so-desirable past?

Kapag may point siya at may point ka at hindi kayo mag-agree sa isang bagay?

Willing ka ba to commit and hindi lang basta bibitawan ang mga salitang “Ayoko na! Break na tayo!”?

Hindi naman sa tinatakot ka namin, Breaker, but this is the reality.

Pero kapag nalagpasan niyo naman ‘yan, you will realize na friction can strengthen your relationship when managed in a respectful and positive manner.

For now, mag-heal muna tayo from commitment issues, Breaker.

Tutulungan ka namin.

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‘Wag ka na mahiya. We want you to BreakThrough!

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