Hindi mo na ba kinakaya ang passive aggressive mong friend?
Ang bida-bida mong workmate?
Ang tsismosa or tsismoso mong kapamilya?
Naiisip mo pa lang sila, na-ti-trigger ka na. Nag-fa-flashback na ‘yung moments with them that made you suffer and afraid today.
Paano ka ba makikisama sa kanila lalo na kung halos araw-araw mo silang nakikita?
Maganda that you put your mind muna sa right perspective. Basahin mo ‘tong sinabi ni Jamey Santiago-Manual in one of CBN Asia’s online show titled, Whatcha Say, Thursday!, “Kung paano ka pinatawad ni LORD sa mga topak mo noon, it’s how you also forgive, understand, and adjust for others,” Jamey Santiago-Manual.
While it’s easier to point other people’s shortcomings and wrongdoings, tandaan na naging difficult ka rin, but the LORD was merciful and gracious to you.
What you need to do now is to extend the same love you have received from Him to other people. Ayos ba?
‘Wag kang mag-alala, Breaker.
Jamey Santiago-Manual and Jericho “Jik” Arceo are here to give you 3 BreakThrough tips to deal with difficult people sa buhay mo.
BreakThrough Difficult People Tip #1: Approach the person with gentleness and love.
Eto siguro ang iniisip mo, ‘no?
“Luh! Ako na nga na-offend ako pa makikipag-usap?”
So, ayun na nga.
Kung na-offend ka, you need to deal it with the LORD first. Maging honest ka sa Kaniya on how it affected you and humingi ka ng grace to understand the person, sabi ni Jik.
Posible kasi na gano’n na lang sila makitungo sa ‘yo because they were treated badly in the past, they’re exhausted and nabuhos sa ‘yo ang frustration, or they have different backgrounds and beliefs from you.
Kapag nakapag-usap na kayo ni LORD, then you can approach the person with gentleness and love. One way to do this is to change your dialogue from “You” to “I”.
Rather than saying, “Ikaw kasi feeling magaling!” to “I feel discouraged kapag ganito ka magsalita. Tama ba ako ng nararamdaman?”
See the difference?
“Instead of leading them to an argument, we can lead them to a healthy discussion,” explanation ni Jamey.
Remember na hindi lang siya ang babaguhin ni LORD, pero ikaw rin ay binabago Niya.
BreakThrough Difficult People Tip #2: Understand that we have different personality types.
Hindi kaya you brand people as “difficult” kasi they are different from how you think, act, or feel?
Iba-iba kasi tayo, Breaker.
Merong “steady” ang personality type. Sila ‘yung accommodating, quiet, calm, patient, and even-tempered people.
May “influencer” personality type rin. Sila naman ‘yung high-spirited, enthusiastic, energetic, adventurous people na minsan napagkakamalang pabibo or bida-bida.
You need to understand na baka gano’n lang talaga sila because it is possible na “inaayos ni LORD ang puso mo on how you view and deal with different personalities,” sabi ni Jamey.
Boom! Heart check muna, Breaker.
On the other side of the coin, kung nakikita mo na unhealthy na ang effect niya sa tao or may tinatapakan na siyang iba just to prove a point, that’s when you apply BreakThrough difficult people tip number 1.
BreakThrough Difficult People Tip #3: Ask counsel from people you trust.
Hindi para mag-tsismisan at maging Marites ka for “Mare, ito ang latest!” or Marietta for “Mare, ito pa!”
‘Wag gano’n, Breaker.
Sabi ni Jik, “You can talk to a friend na alam mong hindi bias sa ‘yo. May balance siya magbigay ng guidance.”
Ang goal mo sa pakikipag-usap is to ask for wisdom and counsel on what you need to do dahil sa totoo lang, kapag offended ka, nagiging biased or subjective ka kasi nauuna ang negative feelings mo toward the person.
Maging choosy sa pagpili ng pag-she-share-an ah, Breaker.
Preferably someone who is close to the Lord para you can confront the problem objectively and be led sa right path.
If wala ka pang maisip na person to trust, you can reach out to us.
May Prayer Center representative kami na ready to talk to you about your struggles. Text ka lang sa 0999-227-1927 or call 0931-805-0802.
Watch the full Whatcha Say, Thursday! webisode below.
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Bago ka umalis, here’s a reminder for us in Colossians 3:13 NLT, “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”