Most people, if not everyone, wants to have a God-centered relationship. Marahil isa ka sa naghahangad nito. ‘Yung tipo ng relasyon na hindi pabebe, at ‘yung makikita mong nag-go-grow kayong dalawa ng partner mo. 

Ayaw mo na sa toxicity, at ayaw mo nang maging ‘fixer’. Meaning, you have accepted na hindi mo mababago ang isang tao unless gustuhin niya ito at lumapit siya kay LORD. 

Baka nasabi mo na nga rin ‘to, “Enough is enough!” Sabay kanta ng ‘I love you, goodbye.’ Huwaw, lakas mag-emote yarn! 

Anyway, we know you’ve always pictured a kind of relationship that honors the LORD. ‘Yung alam mong nag-pi-pray kayong dalawa para sa isa’t-isa, at humihingi palagi ng guidance sa Kaniya. Ito ang tipo ng relasyon na magandang example para sa iba. 

Pero, ngunit, datapwat, subalit… paano nga ba magkaroon ng God-centered relationship? 

Actually, gusto rin naming malaman ang sagot para dito. That’s why we tried to look for a resource that will help us answer the question above, and we found something! 

Naaalala mo ba si ‘Hopia’ ng Goin’ Bulilit? Katrina Legaspi, aka Hopia, recently got married to her boyfriend, who she’s been dating for seven years! From one of CBN Asia’s online shows, hosted by Sonjia Calit, Kapit Lang, Trina and her now husband, Ryan, both shared tips on how they put God at the center of their relationship. 

How to Have a God-centered Relationship BreakThrough Tip #1: Put the LORD at the center of your life. 

If you want to have a God-centered relationship, you first need to have a God-centered life. 

Individually. Alone. Ikaw at si LORD lang. 

Putting God at the center of your life means you’re allowing Him to have the first say in everything. Meaning, Siya muna bago ang lahat. Whether you’re single, in a relationship or married, living a life with God at the center is very important. Because everything you do is influenced by it. 

Another reason is, kung si LORD ang sentro ng buhay mo, you will be less likely to place your value in someone else’s. Mas magiging confident ka sa worth and value mo. ‘Di mo matatanong ang, “Am I not enough?” At dahil secure ka kay LORD, mababawasan din ang iyong marupok moments. Gusto mo yarn, diba? 

So, kumusta, Breaker? Masasabi mo ba ngayon na si LORD ang sentro ng buhay mo? 

If your answer is yes, then good for you! Natutuwa kaming marinig ‘yan and we want to celebrate with you. Pero since ‘di pa puwede mag-partey partey ngayon, virtual hugs na lang muna. 

Kung ang answer mo naman ay no, then it’s okay. We appreciate your honesty, and we want you to know that there’s no judgment here. At least ngayon alam mo na kung saan ka magsisimula. 

If you want to ask for advice about this, feel free to message us sa 0999-227-1927 or call 0931-805-0802. 

You can also reach out to us sa iCanBreakThrough Facebook page or Instagram account or email us. 

How to Have a God-centered Relationship BreakThrough Tip #2: Set boundaries. 

Trina shared that after a month of being in a relationship with Ryan, she set her boundaries. She laid down her values, beliefs, and preferences. Sinabi niya rin na gusto niyang i-preserve ang sarili niya for her future husband. 

Alam mo kung ano ang response ni Ryan? He respected it, and admired her even more! 

This is something that all of us should aspire to have, Breaker. To be with someone who respects you and your relationship with the LORD. Napakagandang indicator ito na totoong mahal ka ng isang tao. 

At dahil nag-set ng boundaries si Trina sa simula pa lang, Ryan also assessed himself kung nararapat ba siya para kay Trina. With Trina’s initiative, he wanted to make their relationship right before the LORD. 

Sanaol, ‘no? 

Setting boundaries not only protects your relationship, it also draws you closer to Him. Dahil kapag na-te-tempt ka, wala kang choice kundi tumakbo sa Kaniya! Sabi pa nga nina Trina and Ryan, they would pray and play worship songs every time they were tempted to sin.  

So set boundaries, Breaker. Pero ‘di naman ‘yung tipo na sa sobrang tayog at taas ng boundaries, wala ng intimacy na ma-ko-cultivate. Nagkakaroon na ng pader sa pagitan ninyong dalawa. Set boundaries na sakto lang. Enough for you to guard your heart, and enough for your partner to keep. 

How to Have a God-centered Relationship BreakThrough Tip #3: Surround yourself with the right people. 

The right people will help you protect your well-being and your relationship with others. They can be your family, friends, churchmates, leaders, and mentors. Kailangan mong i-surround ang sarili mo ng mga taong willing makinig sa (ahem) karupukan mo (ahem), and at the same time, hindi ti-no-tolerate ang bad actions mo. 

Let’s admit it. Walang perpekto sa balat ng lupa, Breaker. All of us have our fair share of faults and mistakes. And because of this fact, lahat din tayo nangangailangan ng mga taong tanggap tayo, and willing makinig sa ‘tin. At the same time, willing din tayo i-correct. 

Kahit minsan feeling mo masyado silang nangingialam, but the truth is, they just want to protect you. Lalo na kapag sobrang in love ka, naku! Kaya nga nauso ‘yang “Love is blind” eh. You cannot think or decide well when your feelings are heightened. In other words, prone sa pagiging pokmaru. 

Relate ka ba? Oks lang ‘yan. Like what we’ve said, no judgment here. We all go through that. Haha! 

We also encourage you to have a mentor, Breaker. If you don’t have one yet, and you want to belong to a group that will help you grow, feel free to message us (please check the details we’ve provided above). Scroll up ka muna saglit. 

You can also save and watch the video below so you’ll know how Trina and Ryan met, and how the LORD helped them face the challenges they’ve encountered. 

If you want to see more videos about adulting struggles, feel free to visit our YouTube channel. 

See you!